P-Life Finds Hope

Last night I got an IM from a friend. She referred me to a blog in which I was the topic of discussion. GO FIGURE! I visited the blog of PassionateLife and found this entry about Ger and I. Needless to say I was sort of suprised:

It’s nice to know that others are going through and sharing many of the joys and worries of a long distance astounding connection. It’s doubly a pleasure when the couple in question are also fellow bloggers. It’s great to read about the power of feeling connected and understood while sharing the same outlook and approach to life. The description of the almost magnetic draw, the addictive impulse to talk all night, to keep on connecting with another likeminded soul is so overpowering.

To find others who has found that and watch them navigate all the pitfalls that are inherently bound in trying to make two independent lives into interdependent lives is very affirming.

The bloggers I speak of are Tikkun Ger and Tamara Eden. I found Tikkun Ger after reading his post about connecting with Tamara. It very much reminded me of my relationship with Sabrina. Then I read some more about him and was amazed that a person converting to Reform Judaism can have such a deep understanding of many of Hashems core values. Read about his conversion process and the depth of his sincerity and deeper understanding.

I wish them much Hatzlocha in their budding relationship and on his incredible spiritual drive. More power to you my friend, I am in awe of your journey!!!

I first want to say that I don't want to jump the gun, or as TG says, put the cart before the horse. Our relationship is very new. We have not had a first meeting yet, though that is happening on June 28th. Yes we get along well and have a wonderful connection but there are stumbling blocks we'll have to skin our knees on a little to make this work. So why bother? Well, it's worth it. G-d doesn't place people in our lives on accident, and this reasoning is enough for me to follow my heart and my gut.

And so, my response to P-Life's post is pasted below.

Dear P-Life:

I am shocked that I, of all people, have popped up on another's blog as a sign of hope. Esther of JDatersAnonymous IMd me tonight and asked me if she's been so out of it that she had to find this info out by reading your blog. :) Esther and I actually do know each other, though we've only met a couple of times. Nevertheless, you can imagine how suprised I was when she told me there was a blog about me.

First, let me thank you because it feels good to know that you too are going through something similar. And, if anything, YOU are the hope since you've been at it longer. I think I could learn something from your Sabrina. Your whole piece about her ability to modulate in your relationship is something I can learn from.

For what it's worth, TG and I are dealing with a similar thing now. Granted, our time frame is much wider (neither of us are Orthodox or shomer negiah) and, as you've read in his blog, he has things he needs to accomplish before moving to the next stage in his life, whatever that may be.

This is such a detrimental thing to many relationships; timing. I came into this, as I posted before, ready for a serious long term relationship. I wasn't planning on meeting someone via my blog, in Canada to boot! But I did. And he's an amazing man that I'd be a fool to not be open to exploring a relationship with. But speaking of timing, he was not looking to date, and has some plans that are not flexible (nor should they be, school is a huge priority and committment of which I support).

And so, just as your Sabrina seems to have figured out how to make your situation work, and to work with you, I too am learning about this "stuff", and learning about me in the process.

Again, thank you so much for sharing and again for giving me a moment to reflect. I wish the two of you a (G-d willing) long, healthy, and joyous life together.